Snap and Ponder: Good in Goodbyes

snap and ponder

Time may pass and memories leave behind but one thing’s for sure and constant – change. Under circumstances, whether it’ll be good or unpleasant, there’s gonna be changes.

We always talk about change – in politics, social media, climate, even personal matters and shit happens. Unexpected and unwanted happenings occur and we were left with no choice but to get hurt (until when?) and move on (when?).

Does it take a lot to be hurt? Is it necessary to show that you’re hurt? Or is it even justifiable to leave because you’re hurt?

These are questions left in my mind when I see someone hurt. Of course, there will be mishaps and downtimes but there will always be an end to every nightmare. But the question is when?

This causes an effect in society and the chain of circles especially when one is damaged. It’s like a virus that’s gradually becoming an epidemic. It’s like crystals that get broken that’s never gonna be fixed. It may heal at some point but it’s never gonna be the same.

Moving on is an option but growing up is a lesson. We have to accept that things and times have changed. When intersecting lines become skew lines, it’s never gonna be the same.

At some point of this crisis, there’s always good in goodbye. It allows you to learn and grow into your chosen paths. Though it may sound absurd but ironically it’s like someone’s breather, taking on the road less traveled and turning a cub into a lion.

But don’t forget the cherished moments and keep them as treasure. Be thankful, show gratitude and take it a lesson for you to grow up.

Things may have turned different now, but let us still continue chasing our aspirations and goals, on separate ways.

Thanks for staying and see you on the next #SnapandPonder! 🙂

Share this:
  • hannafrej

    Change is inevitable. Over the years, I realized that we should never stop anything from happening. Sometimes we are happy. Sometimes we get hurt. Sometimes we feel vulnerable. Sometimes we have to leave people and say goodbye. And even sometimes, we have to hurt other people too. And that is okay. These things are necessary because we all have to evolve – to become a better version of ourselves.

  • Wow, this is deeply written and piercing my inner existence. It’s like I’m reading a well experienced writer and have been going through a lot of pain in goodbye’s. Anyway, this has presented me a perfect moment to reflect and learned as well. I’m reading an article that talked about a real wisdom and not just merely about knowledge. I’m so glad that you’re still writing about this series blog post of yours. Snap and ponder is AWESOME!

    • Your comment makes me even more write Snap and Ponder. Thanks Master Lai for words of appreciation! 🙂 PIla’y atik ani master haha joke lang. bitaw salamat kayo master

  • Goodbyes are endings, but they are also beginnings; perhaps that’s why it’s “goodbye” and not “bye” only. Feelings are there to be felt. So when we’re hurt, that’s good. At least we know that we’re not insensitive. 😉

  • Nym Phee Chic

    Couldn’t agree more. Great blog. I’ve been to all sorts of goodbyes, too. Leaving someone, moving out from one place, “I’m-so-over-you-goodbye, and the worst kinds of goodbye – losing someone. Some brought excitement; others caused me pain yet through it all, there’s one thing in common – goodbyes made me better, wiser, & stronger.

  • Thank you Dakila. After the storm will always be a sunshine. Exciting! Hehe. Mature najud kayo? Haha

  • Deeply written!
    As for me growing up is when you learn not to escape your demons but to face it. It is when you grow balls to stand and face it, tame it, own it, and even embrace it.
    Whatever you are facing now buddy, hope you have moved on and soon be proud to say that you have grown.

  • Wow! All those deep thoughts flowing through that “creative writer” mind of yours!

    Anyways, we can’t let our past stop us from growing up and moving on. 🙂

  • “When intersecting lines become skew lines, it’s never gonna be the same.”

    NEVER. But continue creating memories and be more matured each new day. Deep kaayo ni da.